A great relationship is something you build.

Deliberately, consciously, and with your eyes open.

Building deliberately means seeing yourself and the other person for who they really are, not who you want them to be.

Asking honestly: what do we actually want? What are we actually building? And being willing to keep adjusting the answer as you keep growing.

Most relationships get this the wrong way around. They look outward first, to the other person, to a checklist, to an idea of what a relationship should look like. Before they've stopped to understand themselves. What they're bringing in. Who they actually are.

A relationship can only be as intentional as the people inside it.

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Why now?

Every relationship will face obstacles. The question isn't whether, it's whether you'll be ready.

But that's not the real reason to do this work now.

The real reason is what it opens up. A level of understanding, connection, and depth that most people never get close to. Not because it isn't possible, but because they never stopped to build it deliberately.

This is the most empowering investment you can make in your relationship.

Who this is for?

This is for the relationships that want more.

You're here if you want to:

Know and understand yourself and those closest to you more deeply, not just the surface version

Go into marriage with your eyes open, not just hopeful

Notice the patterns you're repeating and choose differently

Have the conversations that actually matter, not just the ones on the surface

Build something that can hold everything life brings and come out stronger

It's about building something worth keeping.

Why Alexandra?

Accredited Therapist.
Qualified Coach.
Relationship Expert.

16 countries.

A decade running global events.

A real-world education in how people actually love.

Years in the wedding industry. Thousands of real stories. The kind of understanding that only comes from being in the room.

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What becomes possible…

The relationships that do this work have something you can see.

They're calm. Content. Not because life got easier, but because they know how to be in it together.

That's what intentional looks like in practice.

What we build together…

ByDesign is a progressive programme built around one idea, intentional relationships don't happen by accident. They are designed, piece by piece, with full understanding of who you are and what you're building together.

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Relationships By Design, Not by Default.

  • We’re so grateful, thank you so much Alexandra! Working with you has totally changed our relationship, we’re so much more connected, you’ve really transformed our relationship into something we only hoped for.

    Couple Client

  • You’re really great at your job, thank you!

    Couple Client

  • Sessions have been wonderful, talking to Alexandra really helps answer all of my questions.

    Therapy Client

  • Alexandra’s unwavering support and encouragement has played a huge part in my confidence to launch my speaking career and I’m so grateful to her for this.

    From planning to production, I’ve watched Alexandra produce complex events remaining extremely calm and grounded throughout, and always wearing a smile!

    As a psychotherapist she brings something very unique and special and can offer so much knowledge and support to speakers and performers alike.

    I can’t recommend working with Alexandra highly enough, she’s an absolute star and someone you definitely want in your corner!

    Coaching Client

  • Alexandra understands, listens and doesn't judge. I really enjoy talking to her.

    Therapy Client

  • Alexandra's open-minded approach and willingness to delve deep into subjects, always striving for excellence, make her remarkable.

    Coaching Client

  • The experience has been grounding and clarifying. What felt most helpful was having a structured, neutral space where difficult dynamics could be slowed down and named without escalation. Your ability to reflect patterns back to us calmly and without judgment helped create moments of insight that felt constructive rather than defensive. I appreciated the focus on emotional regulation, accountability, and understanding how individual histories and nervous system responses impact our interactions.

    Couple Client

  • I'm still anchoring into the new belief I seeded in Alexandra's workshop. Through her unique process of journaling and contemplation i was able to shift a limiting belief around being bold and too much in my content. I now post what ever the F i want and practice non attachment to the outcome. Knowing that the right people will find me and want to coach with me when they are ready for the transformation. Thank you Alexandra for an incredible mind expanding workshop! ✨

    Coaching Client

  • Alexandra, whose personal approach and continuous support have provided a flawless process for me getting from the very initial brainstorming to the stage on the day.

    Coaching Client (Lucia Fragia Celebrity Wedding Planner - Spain)

  • Alexandra is a very talented coach, I especially love how she has really helped me change my mindset , I highly recommend her to all my friends and colleagues.

    Coaching Client (Jiyeon Yung CFO - South Korea)

  • Alexandra’s proactive and clear communication style, brings a unique blend of efficiency and personal warmth that truly sets her apart.

    Coaching Client (Tomas De Bruyne International Best Florist - Holland)

  • I wanted to send a special thank you for all that you did to make my portion of the conference smooth. I truly appreciate all of your follow up and attention to detail. You are wonderful and I really enjoy working with you

    Coaching Client (Rachel Dalton Lawyer - USA)

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