Relationships are the most important thing we have.
And sometimes the hardest.

Alexandra Tarr

Couples Therapist & Relationship Coach

The relationship you actually want. Let's build it.

Romantic, personal, & professional.

I'm here to help you understand yours, to navigate the difficult parts, grow through them, and build something better. Not only because I read about it. Because I've been there too.

Something isn't working → Therapy and Coaching
I want more → Relationships ByDesign

Meet Alexandra

  • I’m a psychotherapist and coach with over a decade exploring how people connect. With themselves, with each other, and with the world around them. I believe intentional relationships are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, whether that’s with a partner, in the workplace, or within yourself.

    Through years of practice, global experience in the wedding and events industry, and working alongside diverse clients, from NHS patients to leaders, creatives, and even royalty, I’ve learned that growth, clarity, and connection come from:

    • Understanding yourself and your patterns

    • Accepting your reality and embracing authentic communication

    • Choosing consciously how you show up in every relationship

  • I’m on a mission to help people create relationships intentionally. Thriving connections aren’t about luck or finding the “perfect” partner.

    They’re about clarity, self-awareness, and conscious choice. When each person shows up fully as themselves, relationships become spaces of growth, trust, and deep connection.

  • At its core, my work blends therapy and coaching, challenging you to understand yourself more deeply and to show up in your relationships with clarity and intention.

    Whether you’re navigating recurring arguments, preparing for marriage, or seeking personal growth, I meet you where you are and support you in moving forward with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

    • Explore & Understand: Using therapeutic techniques, we uncover patterns, beliefs, and emotions that influence your relationships.

    • Process & Navigate: Together, we work through challenges, relationship, personal, or professional, in a safe, non-judgmental space.

    • Apply & Grow: Coaching strategies help you turn insights into action, fostering intentional change and sustainable growth.

  • Most people don’t need more love, they need clarity, support, and self-empowerment.

    My approach helps you:

    • Recognise and reset unhelpful patterns

    • Communicate clearly, authentically, and compassionately

    • Build trust, empathy, and understanding

    • Align your values, desires, and visions for the future

      The result? You move from feeling stuck or misunderstood to feeling seen, supported, empowered, and truly connected.

Choose love intentionally, your relationships deserve it.

Specialisms & Expertise

Relationship Support

Premarital Counselling, Marriage Preparation & Alignment

Marriage Commitment & Navigating Family Dynamics

Wedding Stress Management

Communication, Infidelity, Betrayal & Divorce

Healing from Past Relationships

Therapy & Wellbeing

Growth, Therapy & Wellbeing

Grief, Bereavement & Loss

Personal Growth & Self-Discovery

Anxiety, Depression, & Emotional Wellbeing

Boarding School Issues

Women’s Issues

Professional & Speaker Coaching

Professional Coaching

Speaker Coaching, Presentation Review, & Stage Presence

Credentials & Experience

I bring 10 years of psychotherapy, coaching, and global experience:

  • BACP Accredited Psychotherapist & Counsellor (MBACP 394216)

  • Diploma in Transpersonal Couples & Intimate Relationship Therapy

  • Higher Professional Diploma in Counselling & Psychotherapy (Distinction)

  • Coaching Certificate, ILM Level 3, EMCC & ICF Accredited

  • BA Hons French Studies, University of Birmingham (2:1)

  • 10 years working in the Events & Weddings Industry, running global conferences and luxury events

  • Lecturer & trainer (Event School London)

  • Published researcher in Sex Addiction

  • Trained in Person-Centered, CBT, Transactional Analysis & Existential Counselling

  • Online & Telephone (OPT) Counselling Certification
    (Mapped to BACP and ACTO framework; Counselling Tutor)

Across global clinical practice, leadership, and executive coaching, my mission is consistent: help people understand themselves, communicate with confidence, and cultivate relationships that thrive in real life.

Relationships ByDesign

Deepen self-awareness and relational understanding

Support sustainable growth in personal and professional relationships

Build intentional habits and communication skills

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Get to know Alexandra

NHS-trained therapist & coach to leaders, royalty, and MPs. I help people and relationships thrive under pressure.

Directed global wedding conferences & teams of 100+. From Switzerland to Dubai, I learned how to lead, connect, and make complex projects succeed.

Philip Khoury

Pastry Chef and award-winning author

Coached C-suite leaders, speakers, and creatives worldwide, turning nerves and anxiety into clarity and presence.

Edgar Zamora & Sarah Young

International Wedding Planners

I speak French and intermediate Spanish. The right words can open doors, spark understanding, and connect us across cultures.

Wendy El Khoury & Hella Huizinga

Industry Expert & International Planner

I love sailing, dancing, and being outdoors. I believe joy and playfulness are part of a fulfilling life.

I’ve lived and worked in 16 countries. Travel and cross-cultural experience inform how I understand families, couples and teams.

Outside the therapy room, you'll find me dancing, sailing, and doing my best to live everything I believe about relationships.

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