“What do you want from your life, your relationships, and yourself… do you really know?”
Alexandra Tarr
Couples Therapist & Relationship Coach
Helping you build clarity, connection, and intentional relationships.
Romantic, personal, & professional.
Meet Alexandra
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I’m a psychotherapist and coach with over a decade exploring how people connect. With themselves, with each other, and with the world around them. I believe intentional relationships are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, whether that’s with a partner, in the workplace, or within yourself.
Through years of practice, global experience, and working alongside diverse clients, from NHS patients to leaders, creatives, and even royalty, I’ve learned that growth, clarity, and connection come from:
Understanding yourself and your patterns
Accepting your reality and embracing authentic communication
Choosing consciously how you show up in every relationship
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I’m on a mission to help people create relationships intentionally. Thriving connections aren’t about luck or finding the “perfect” partner.
They’re about clarity, self-awareness, and conscious choice. When each person shows up fully as themselves, relationships become spaces of growth, trust, and deep connection.
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At its core, my work blends therapy and coaching to give you practical tools, reflective exercises, and expert guidance. Whether you’re navigating recurring arguments, preparing for marriage, or seeking personal growth, we meet you where you are and support you in moving forward with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
Explore & Understand: Using therapeutic techniques, we uncover patterns, beliefs, and emotions that influence your relationships.
Process & Navigate: Together, we work through challenges, relationship, personal, or professional, in a safe, non-judgmental space.
Apply & Grow: Coaching strategies help you turn insights into action, fostering intentional change and sustainable growth.
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Most people don’t need more love, they need clarity, tools, and guidance.
My approach helps you:
Recognise and reset unhelpful patterns
Communicate clearly, authentically, and compassionately
Build trust, empathy, and understanding
Align your values, desires, and visions for the future
The result? You move from feeling stuck or misunderstood to feeling seen, supported, empowered, and truly connected.
Specialisms & Expertise
Relationship Support
Premarital Counselling, Marriage Preparation & Alignment
Marriage Commitment & Navigating Family Dynamics
Wedding Stress Management
Communication, Infidelity, Betrayal & Divorce
Healing from Past Relationships
Therapy & Wellbeing
Growth, Therapy & Wellbeing
Grief, Bereavement & Loss
Personal Growth & Self-Discovery
Anxiety, Depression, & Emotional Wellbeing
Boarding School Issues
Women’s Issues
Professional & Speaker Coaching
Professional Coaching
Speaker Coaching, Presentation Review, & Stage Presence
In addition to therapy and coaching, I offer ByDesign relationship programs designed to:
Deepen self-awareness and relational understanding
Build intentional habits and communication skills
Support sustainable growth in personal and professional relationships
(More details to come—sign up to join the waitlist!)
Credentials & Experience
I bring 10 years of psychotherapy, coaching, and global experience:
BACP Accredited Psychotherapist & Counsellor (MBACP 394216)
Diploma in Transpersonal Couples & Intimate Relationship Therapy
Higher Professional Diploma in Counselling & Psychotherapy (Distinction)
Coaching Certificate, ILM Level 3, EMCC & ICF Accredited
BA Hons French Studies, University of Birmingham (2:1)
10 years working in the Events & Weddings Industry, running global conferences
Lecturer & trainer (Event School London)
Published researcher in Sex Addiction
Trained in Person-Centered, CBT, Transactional Analysis & Existential Counselling
Online & Telephone (OPT) Counselling Certification
(Mapped to BACP and ACTO framework; Counselling Tutor)
Across global clinical practice, leadership, and executive coaching, my mission is consistent: help people understand themselves, communicate with confidence, and cultivate relationships that thrive in real life.
Get to know Alexandra
NHS-trained therapist & coach to leaders, royalty, and MPs. I help people and relationships thrive under pressure.
Paul Burrell - butler to Diana, Princess of Wales
Directed global wedding conferences & teams of 100+. From Switzerland to Dubai, I learned how to lead, connect, and make complex projects succeed.
Philip Khoury - Pastry Chef and award-winning author
I speak French and intermediate Spanish. The right words can open doors, spark understanding, and connect us across cultures.
Wendy El Khoury & Hella Huizinga
I love sailing, dancing, and being outdoors. I believe joy and playfulness are part of a fulfilling life.
I’ve lived and worked in 16 countries. Travel and cross-cultural experience inform how I understand families, couples and teams.
Coached C-suite leaders, speakers, and creatives worldwide, turning nerves and anxiety into clarity and presence
Edgar Zamora and Sarah Young, International Wedding Planners
I’m not defined by what I do, therapy, coaching, dancing, sailing, but by how I show up in life, fully present and engaged with the people around me.
Relationships are life, they shape how we show up, how we grow, and how we move through the world.
My work is for people who want to understand themselves, strengthen their connections, and create relationships that are intentional, resilient, and deeply aligned with who they truly are.
If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns, to communicate more clearly, and to embrace the relationship you truly want, let’s connect.